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This early morning I received a text message from a girlfriend of mine that said: “I need some tips on Valentine’s Day gifts, so, shall we do lunch tomorrow?” She thinks that I am some kind of expert in gifts, not because I AM an expert but because I have a motto in purchasing and giving gifts: ALWAYS GIVE YOUR LOVE ONES A PROPER GIFT, OTHERWISE IS JUST INSULTING! A gift should send a message that you actually care about the person you give a gift to, so show it and do not be cheap about it. I know that there are many ways to insult someone, including your loved ones, but using gifts to do it, is just tacky, rude and shamelessly cruel. Let’s use the word “proper” then? Yes, PROPER! When it comes to gifts, I prefer to use the word PROPER instead of SURPRISING because something can go totally wrong when you try to surprise someone (or be surprised by someone, for that matter). I remember one true story that a colleague of mine ones told me. She said that she had a very nice couple as her neighbours and friends. They were engaged to be married and for their Valentine’s Day he arranged a surprise gift for his fiance. It’s a very thoughtful idea of hem until she actually got her surprise gift! Two tickets for a private swing party! No doubt that both of them were willing to spice up their sexual life but a private swing party was too much to bear for her. A few months later they split up because she couldn’t help thinking and wondering whether her fiance was actually a regular swing party’s visitor behind her back! As you all know that uncertainties and doubts are two of many lethal weapons that can distroy relationships, any relationship. So, what was the word I mentioned before? PROPER. If and when you want to give someone a gift, always ask for her/his wish list and surprise them with one of their wishes, not with something you think that they wish to receive. Believe me, it might even keep your relationship alive! If you are too shy or something to ask someone for his/her wish list, you might consider these following wish lists, both for him and her. Valentine’s Day gift tips for him:
Valentine’s Day gift tips for her:
You and I have about 9 days to shop for some proper gifts for our love ones. Whatever you do, do it properly and have fun with it! Welcome to 2010! I assume that you all had a wonderful and unforgetable New Year’s Eve party. I, myself was absolutely amazed by those incredible and colorful fireworks. Even the weather was very kind and friendly to welcome the New Year. I hope that all of our wishes, dreams and resolutions for 2010 will come true. I think that you would agree with me that you and I are too tired to do something heavy today. So, I am going to spend the rest of the evening with Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens : (Start of chapter 1) Treats of the place where Oliver Twist was born, and of the circumstances attending his birth. Among other public buildings in a certain town, which for many reasons it will be prudent to refrain from mentioning, and to which I will assign no fictitious name, there is one anciently common to most towns, great or small: to wit, a workhouse; and in this workhouse was born; on a day and date which I need not trouble myself to repeat, inasmuch as it can be of no possible consequence to the reader, in this stage of the business at all events; the item of mortality whose name is prefixed to the head of this chapter. For a long time after it was ushered into this world of sorrow and trouble, by the parish surgeon, it remained a matter of considerable doubt whether the child would survive to bear any name at all; in which case it is somewhat more than probable that these memoirs would never have appeared; or, if they had, that being comprised within a couple of pages, they would have possessed the inestimable merit of being the most concise and faithful specimen of biography, extant in the literature of any age or country. Although I am not disposed to maintain that the being born in a workhouse, is in itself the most fortunate and enviable circumstance that can possibly befall a human being, I do mean to say that in this particular instance, it was the best thing for Oliver Twist that could by possibility have occurred. The fact is, that there was considerable difficulty in inducing Oliver to take upon himself the office of respiration,- a troublesome practice, but one which custom has rendered necessary to our easy existence; and for some time he lay gasping on a little flock mattress, rather unequally poised between this world and the next: the balance being decidedly in favour of the latter. Now, if, during this brief period, Oliver had been surrounded by careful grandmothers, anxious aunts, experienced nurses, and doctors of profound wisdom, he would most inevitably and indubitably have been killed in no time. There being nobody by, however, but a pauper old woman, who was rendered rather misty by an unwonted allowance of beer; and a parish surgeon who did such matters by contract; Oliver and Nature fought out the point between them. The result was, that, after a few struggles, Oliver breathed, sneezed, and proceeded to advertise to the inmates of the workhouse the fact of a new burden having been imposed upon the parish, by setting up as loud a cry as could reasonably have been expected from a male infant who had not been possessed of that very useful appendage, a voice, for a much longer space of time than three minutes and a quarter. As Oliver gave this first proof of the free and proper action of his lungs, the patchwork coverlet which was carelessly flung over the iron bedstead, rustled; the pale face of a young woman was raised feebly from the pillow; and a faint voice imperfectly articulated the words, “Let me see the child, and die.” The surgeon had been sitting with his face turned towards the fire: giving the palms of his hands a warm and a rub alternately. As the young woman spoke, he rose, and advancing to the bed’s head, said, with more kindness than might have been expected of him: “Oh, you must not talk about dying yet.” “Lor bless her heart, no!” interposed the nurse, hastily depositing in her pocket a green glass bottle, the contents of which she had been tasting in a corner with evident satisfaction. “Lor bless her dear heart, when she has lived as long as I have, sir, and had thirteen children of her own, and all on ‘em dead except two, and them in the wurkus with me, she’ll know better than to take on in that way, bless her dear heart! Think what it is to be a mother, there’s a dear young lamb, do.” Apparently this consolatory perspective of a mother’s prospects failed in producing its due effect. The patient shook her head, and stretched out her hand towards the child. The surgeon deposited it in her arms. She imprinted her cold white lips passionately on its forehead; passed her hands over her face; gazed wildly round; shuddered; fell back- and died. They chafed her breast, hands, and temples; but the blood had stopped for ever. They talked of hope and comfort. They had been strangers too long. “It’s all over, Mrs. Thingummy!” said the surgeon at last. “Ah, poor dear, so it is!” said the nurse, picking up the cork of the green bottle, which had fallen out on the pillow, as she stooped to take up the child. “Poor dear!” “You needn’t mind sending up to me, if the child cries, nurse,” said the surgeon, putting on his gloves with great deliberation. “It’s very likely it (r)will¯ * be troublesome. Give it a little gruel if it is.” He put on his hat, and, pausing by the bed-side on his way to the door, added, “She was a good-looking girl, too; where did she come from?” “She was brought here last night,” replied the old woman, “by the overseer’s order. She was found lying in the street. She had walked some distance, for her shoes were worn to pieces; but where she came from, or where she was going to, nobody knows.” The surgeon leaned over the body, and raised the left hand. “The old story,” he said, shaking his head: “no wedding ring, I see. Ah! Good night!” The medical gentleman walked away to dinner; and the nurse, having once more applied herself to the green bottle, sat down on a low chair before the fire, and proceeded to dress the infant. What an excellent example of the power of dress, young Oliver Twist was! Wrapped in the blanket which had hitherto formed his only covering, he might have been the child of a nobleman or a beggar; it would have been hard for the haughtiest stranger to have assigned him his proper station in society. But now that he was enveloped in the old calico robes which had grown yellow in the same service, he was badged and ticketed, and fell into his place at once- a parish child- the orphan of a workhouse- the humble, half-starved drudge- to be cuffed and buffeted through the world- despised by all, and pitied by none. Oliver cried lustily. If he could have known that he was an orphan, left to the tender mercies of churchwardens and overseers, perhaps he would have cried the louder (end of chapter 1). First of all, let me take this last day of 2009 to recap some highlights of my 2009: In January I realized that I have started to feel quite comfortable remembering and talking about Jezebel. After 4 long years of my active mourning I have finally found ease in loving Jezebel in her death. Jezebel, my soul and my truth … When I heard the news about my mother’s death in February 2007 my world fell apart. I was totally in shock and all I could do at that time was quoting this passage:
In February this year, I found some kind of peace in my grief. I also realized that the best way to honor my mother, whom I owe my life and my existence, is by remembering and celebrating her colorful life every day. And I will continue doing so for the rest of my life. I have always been an independent person by nature, and in March I decided not to take the traditional route with my career anymore. I decided to work independently. To do so, I had to arrange and prepare everything that needed to be done (and other things that still needs to be done). In regard to my career decision in March I met my career coach. He is a very straight-to-the-point person who has given me some guidance and advice I need to become an entrepreneur. One advice that I particulary remember is: “Never take criticism personally!” And in the same month I launched Blog Affairs® - a blog that covers social media tips & tricks for newbies. In May I started to work on my career projects including setting up my business plan, investment budget preparation, communication and marketing strategies, accounting, building my business website and so on, and so on … In June I was given a surprise ticket to Sensation White and I surprised myself with actually enjoying that kind of dance event. I thought I only enjoyed music of classical, R&B and Pop’s genres. Honestly, I would never considered going to some events that attract only teenagers but I was wrong, I actually like dance music as well. I spent July, August, September and October with a terrible pain due to inflammation and torn muscles in my arms, my back and my shoulders. After refusing to take some painkillers longer than 2 weeks I was sent by my GP straight to a physiotherapist. I was a little bit sceptical about doing some physical theraphy but fortunately, my physiotherapist turned up to be a very patient and wonderful lady, who guided me how to exercise properly. In the same months I launched Libelcom®, Libelcom Community®, Libelcom ZZP Community® and World Dutch-Indonesian Community®. No wonder that I have got that terrible pain in the first place!! By the end of November I launched libellez® (this blog you are visiting now) and in the same month, after almost 5 years of avoiding, I decided to pay a visit to my dentist! (It was not a great idea at all). Unfortunately, she has decided to repair my teeth as often as possible! Well, there is always a downside of everything. In the beginning of December my sister had to be hospitalized. I am glad that she is recovering quite well. Hopely that she will get better very soon! All in all, 2009 has been a wonderful and yet challenging year to me. Secondly, let me also take this last day of 2009 to thank my family, my friends and those people I have mentioned above, for supporting, guiding and especially being there for me when I needed them the most. I truely hope that 2010 will bring us nothing but love, joy, peacefulness, health and happiness. Thirdly, let’s start the cowndown! Thank you for visiting libellez® and I see you all next year!!
I remember when one of fellow community members on Dooce asked a question: “Do you celebrate Christmas even you are not a Christian?” I believe that Christians all over the world have been ceberating Christmas but where I come from, celebrating Christmas is all about being together with my (our) loved ones, whether you are a Christian or not. Although there are some people who are actually going to church on Christmas Eve, even when they normally aren’t. Well, as long as I don’t have to come along with them, it’s fine by me. Besides, wherever you celebrate it, the point remains the same: being together. Being together is fun and cozy. Telling each other what’s going on in our lives. Sharing dreams, plans, and New Year’s resolutions. Giving and receiving presents (I really do love this part I am not a big eater; in fact, I often lose my appetite during holidays simply because I see too much food everywhere. Even so, I am always in the mood for snacks (and presents). Thanks to those people who have invented Santa. Since yesterday I have been indulging myself with delicious snacks, especially some home made “kerst”-chocolates, that’re made of sugar, cocoa butter, milk powder, cocoa mass, emulsifier, soya lecithin, brown and white chocolate. My favorite presents are a brand new patterned woollen plaid and a pair of cute woollen shoes. Warmy!
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