This early morning I received a text message from a girlfriend of mine that said: “I need some tips on Valentine’s Day gifts, so, shall we do lunch tomorrow?” She thinks that I am some kind of expert in gifts, not because I AM an expert but because I have a motto in purchasing and giving gifts:
ALWAYS GIVE YOUR LOVE ONES A PROPER GIFT, OTHERWISE IS JUST INSULTING!
A gift should send a message that you actually care about the person you give a gift to, so show it and do not be cheap about it. I know that there are many ways to insult someone, including your loved ones, but using gifts to do it, is just tacky, rude and shamelessly cruel.
Let’s use the word “proper” then? Yes, PROPER! When it comes to gifts, I prefer to use the word PROPER instead of SURPRISING because something can go totally wrong when you try to surprise someone (or be surprised by someone, for that matter).
I remember one true story that a colleague of mine ones told me. She said that she had a very nice couple as her neighbours and friends. They were engaged to be married and for their Valentine’s Day he arranged a surprise gift for his fiance. It’s a very thoughtful idea of hem until she actually got her surprise gift! Two tickets for a private swing party! No doubt that both of them were willing to spice up their sexual life but a private swing party was too much to bear for her. A few months later they split up because she couldn’t help thinking and wondering whether her fiance was actually a regular swing party’s visitor behind her back! As you all know that uncertainties and doubts are two of many lethal weapons that can distroy relationships, any relationship.
So, what was the word I mentioned before? PROPER. If and when you want to give someone a gift, always ask for her/his wish list and surprise them with one of their wishes, not with something you think that they wish to receive. Believe me, it might even keep your relationship alive!
If you are too shy or something to ask someone for his/her wish list, you might consider these following wish lists, both for him and her.
Valentine’s Day gift tips for him:
- Men watches
- Electronics: TV & Home Theater, camera, cell phones, computer, notebook
- Kindle gifts
- Tools: multitools
- Sports and outdoors: golf, exercise and fitness
- Automotives
- Books: wining and dining
- Personal care: after shave and fragrance
- Softwares: games, dvd’s
Valentine’s Day gift tips for her:
- Fragrance
- Jewelry
- Beauty: make-up set, bath oils
- Treats: candy, chocolates
- Clothing, shoes and accessories
- Fresh cut flowers
- Books: sexual intimacy, erotic massages
- Kitchen and home
You and I have about 9 days to shop for some proper gifts for our love ones. Whatever you do, do it properly and have fun with it!
5th February, 2010 ♦ 
